Tuesday, 7 August 2018

Tie Dye Dreams

How often do you see an item of clothing you love but hate the colour? It happens so often for me. I don't like navy or brown tones on me, and I can't wear white. I am far too clumsy and untidy to wear white! I recently saw a white dress on ASOS that I really loved the shape of, but was put off by the white. It had a wrap waist and adorable tortoiseshell buttons and was very me, except for the white colour.

Fast forward a few days and I'm peeking at one of my favourite blogger's instagram accounts, the awesome CurvyWordy. She's sharing some new trousers she's dyed in a variety of different colours, totally genius! And then it hit me, I needed to order than white dress and I knew exactly what I was going to do with that dress.

Dress - ASOS Curve (in solid white only)
Tie Dye done by To Dye For
Sunglasses - Quay Australia
Necklace - Sugar & Vice (custom)

I sent it off to 'To Dye For', a company I'd come across as music festivals who make fantastic tie dyed clothing. I'd been really impressed by the fact that they carried up to a size 26 as standard, at festivals, something I've never seen before. Usually at music festivals plus sizes are a total no go zone, but they made the effort to bring every size with them, which is amazing for an independent company. My husband owns two tie dye hoodies from them and they've washed really well and are still as bright as ever, so I knew they were up to the task.

 I checked with the company that the material of the dress was suitable, it's 100% cotton so it was perfect for dyeing. Synthetic materials don't take dye as well (which I didn't know), so I had picked well. I decided to opt for the black rainbow tie dye option, they have a great range of patterns and I'm seriously tempted by the nebula pattern next.

As soon as I opened the parcel containing my dress I was in love. The colours had come out so vibrantly and beautifully, it was all I could have hoped for. The colours pop so well against the black, I love it. It's really comfy and light because it is cotton too, which makes it perfect for this heat wave that doesn't seem to be going anywhere. I've popped a vest top underneath it for these photos, which is the black panel you can see. It's quite a low cut dress and I have a smaller chest with no real cleavage, so I sometimes put a vest top under lower cut dresses as if I'm going to be seated they can tend to gape a little on me.

Every time I wear this dress I get compliments, and I love knowing that it's totally unique. I would most definitely send off more clothes to be dyed by To Dye For. Even in the height of festival season the dress was back in my hands within two weeks which is really impressive.

And finally, I just have to share with you my new Troll 2 inspired Nilbog necklace from Sugar & Vice. I am still so into that film and I people are always so confused when they ask me what it says. 'Nilbog? That's goblin spelled backwards!'

For me, this is a perfect summer outfit, and I'll be wearing it to the next festival I go to for sure.

Much love,
Kitty xxx

Tuesday, 24 July 2018

Wedding Anniversary Trip

For our wedding anniversary, Stu and I are aiming to go away or have some sort of an adventure every year. This year it wasn't looking great. Stu got promoted (yay!) but it meant he had to switch from weekly to monthly pay, leaving us with just my wages for a whole month (boo!) in the run up to it, which rapidly depleted our savings. With our wedding anniversary only 2 weeks away, it looked like we were about to fail our aim on our second wedding anniversary. Out of nowhere, suddenly my amazing parents suggested we get a cottage and have a week long holiday somewhere in the countryside with them, and my grandparents. It meant the dog could come along with us, and we'd get to spend time with my parents who live a few hours away from us, yay!

Next thing I knew we had a cottage booked in Ellastone and we were on our way! It was a lovely converted barn in the middle of nowhere, with 4 bedrooms, a mini pool table, access to a sauna and gym, and stunning views over the hills. It was set onto a farm with a field of sheep that the owners kept as pets. So cute!

Ashen thoroughly enjoyed himself. He's 10 now, and arthritic, so for him, lounging in the sun with belly rubs from all his favourite people was bliss. Look at that happy face! We did a couple of little trips; on our actual wedding anniversary we headed into Bakewell which turned out to be an error. Monday is market day, and the market is in the only car park, which meant we managed to find a parking spot that gave us half an hour to run and get some Bakewell tarts, fancy cheese and fudge, before we had to head off again. It was a shame but there wasn't actually a whole lot to do so back to the sunshine and gin it was.

This was Ashen eagerly awaiting our return from Bakewell. Look at that snoot. What a cutie.

We had a real shock one night, all of a sudden there was a lot of activity in the fields below us, people running back and for and the sheep being rounded up. One sheep was laid on the floor, not moving. Seemingly from nowhere, there is suddenly a lamb with another sheep in the field. It becomes clear that the sheep that isn't moving is in labour and is in a bad way. We all became so emotionally invested in this sheep. Next thing we knew there was a lamb being swung by it's ankles that the sheep had birthed. It wasn't breathing either. We are watching in total horror as it seems that both this poor sheep and it's newborn lamb haven't made it. The lady who owns the farm is visibly crying and my heart just breaks for her. These sheep are their pets, and this should be a beautiful moment for them. We solemnly return to our drinks, gutted for them.

We sit quietly for a little while, I keep glancing at this poor family, wishing there was something we could do. They turn away from the sheep and tend to the other newborn lamb that was happily running around, leaving just one man, the farmer's son from across the road, with the lamb and it's mother. And all of a sudden, the lamb moves. I'm the only one who sees it. Everyone is convinced that it didn't and that I just reeeeeally wanted it to. I'm convinced. I grab my Dad's SLR camera so I can zoom in on the field below. I wait, and I wait. And that lamb moves again. And then the mother does too. The farmer's son has done it. He managed to save not only the newborn lamb, but it's 12 year old mother too (12 is super old for a sheep apparently!). I literally cry tears of joy. What an incredible thing to witness, and something I'll remember it for the rest of my life.

The next day I couldn't resist going and photographing the sweet little lambs, so lamb spam incoming!

The rest of the holiday is mostly spent chilling out, drinking, eating, and playing Balderdash. I win every single game of Balderdash and somehow manage to make my poor Dad have to say the word 'queef' about 8 times. If you want a good family board game I highly recommend! It was hilarious.

We had a fantastic week with our family and our doggo, and we are already planning for a new adventure for next year. We might just venture a little further afield next time!

Much love,
Kitty xxxx

Tuesday, 17 July 2018

The Coolest Denim Jacket Ever.

I have a bit of an obsession with denim jackets, I've got red denim, pale, black, dark blue, customised, vests, and I always find myself eyeing up more. I recently got my hands on the coolest denim jacket ever and while unfortunately you can't buy it looking exactly like mine (sorry in advance!), I had to share it.

Isn't it amazing?! It's a reference to my favourite film True Romance. I won this jacket in a competition hosted by the lush Olivia Campbell and Simply Be. To enter you had to share your personal rewritten rule that you would get written on the back of your very own custom denim jacket. If it wasn't glaringly obvious, I'm a massive nerd and I spent years feeling really uncool and worrying about what people thought of me. You're So Cool became a little personal mantra for me. I might not be cool in the traditional ways, but I am cool in that I'll be your designated driver and make sure everyone gets home safe after a night out. Or if you ever need someone to answer questions about Pokemon or Buffy at a pub quiz, I'm your gal.

Fans of the movie will no doubt point out that Alabama Worley doesn't actually use the apostrophe in you're, and writes youre on the napkin she writes on. I just couldn't do it though. Can you imagine how many people would tell me I'd written it wrong and try to correct it whilst I tried to point out that it was a quote from a film and was actually correct? I do not have the energy for such nonsense!

So this blog post isn't literally just photos of a custom jacket you can't actually buy, here is an amazing mermaid shell bag by Skinnydip London that er... you also can't buy anymore. I nabbed this in the ASOS sale for £7, I just had to have it! I love Skinnydip bags but I have to admit, they tend to fall apart relatively quickly. The zips and fastenings always seem to fall apart. They are only good for occasional use, and I tend to only buy them on sale because I know they won't last well.

You can buy an unpainted version of the jacket from Simply Be, it's their Distressed Western Denim Jacket. It's a cropped sort of style, and a small fit, I'd recommend sizing up. I got it in my usual size and there is absolutely no way I am getting it done up ever. It's fine wearing it open which is how I tend to wear denim jackets, but if you want to do it up size up once, maybe even twice if you are particularly busty.

I took these photos in 30 degree heat and melted shortly after. Do not recommend! This is also why there are no photos of my face because I was a sweaty mess. I am also wearing the exact same dress I wore in my last outfit post. It's warm and the dress is super comfy and easy to throw on, highly recommend!

Much love,
Kitty xxxx

Tuesday, 3 July 2018

The Friendship Break Up

Over the years, I've had some pretty spectacular ends to friendships. We talk a lot about how to get over the end of a relationship, how to deal with heart break and betrayal, but I often think that the end of a friendship can be far worse, yet we never really talk about it. A best friend is someone you've trusted your darkest thoughts to, who you turn to in times of needs, and who is there in the best times of your life, and when that suddenly ends, what do you do?

I can be brutal at the end of a friendship. I give second chances, sometimes even third, but sometimes the thing the other person does is so unforgivable that you just can't. I've ended 4 'best friend' type friendships over the years. One at 18 with the best friend I had all through school and college, and three in my early twenties. One of those I wrote about extensively, because it happened in the run up to said friend's wedding and ended when she threw me out of her bridal party (read about that here). The others ended with more of a fizzle, and they probably hurt the most, despite the lack of dramatic occurrence.

The end of a friendship is a different kind of heartbreak. It is unique to every friendship, it might hurt more of less depending on the length of time you've been friends, or why the friendship is ending. Know that it is OK to grieve the end of your friendship, you love your best friends, and it's a kind of heartbreak all of it's own. Processing the end of a friendship is much the same as processing the end of a relationship. It makes you question yourself, and your trust for those around you, and it's hard to let someone in so close again. Just because it isn't the loss of romantic love, it doesn't mean it isn't the end of a different kind of love.

I feel like I've ended far too many friendships over the years. To protect myself. Because I felt my trust was irreparably damaged. Because they revealed themselves to be someone I didn't know or understand. Or because they became someone that didn't understand me, or want to. Protecting yourself is OK! I wanted to share a few of the things I've learnt on how to help process the end of a friendship.

1) Removing a toxic person from your life is OK. Sometimes a person starts out as an amazing friend, and over time they begin to reveal their other self. The one who picks at you, who encourages your self doubt, who puts you down, who ignores you, uses you only when they need you, or questions your achievements. A friendship doesn't need to end with a bang, sometimes it ends with a painful murmur instead. If someone makes you feel bad who professes to love you and be your dearest friend, it's OK to move on.

2) Remove them from all social media. It isn't healthy to keep them on your social feed, constantly seeing their face pop up, or their seemingly happy like that hasn't been affected the loss of you at all, it can be brutal. Remove them, and it'll make life easier I promise. I tend to block people too, so they don't pop up on mutual friends social feeds either, or even go so far as to mute their usernames on social media that lets me do that. Don't ever feel bad for blocking someone if it is better for your mental health, you have to take care of you first.

3) It's OK to grieve, for as long as you need. There are times I still wonder about the friendship I ended at 18 and hurt, because betrayal can sting 12 years later. It hurts when I have to interact with the friendship that fizzled because we have so many mutuals. I have to pretend it's OK and it's fine and that it doesn't hurt after several years to see them pretend like I was nothing to them. It's OK to mourn, to cry, to need to talk to someone, a professional if necessary, it's OK.

4) Ghosting is OK. Controversial I know! Don't feel like you have to tell your friend why you are cutting them out of your life. Sometimes they don't deserve your explanation or your time. I know a lot of people will disagree with me on this one, people don't like to be ghosted and they don't think it's appropriate behaviour, that you should be more 'grown up' than to ghost. But you know what, it's OK! Sometimes the best thing for yourself, the safest thing or the healthiest thing to do, is just ghost. I'm not ashamed to say I've done it. If you feel the only option to avoid a confrontation, or to avoid a scene, is to ghost, then ghost. You don't owe a toxic person your explanation or your time.

6) Remember that time and healing are not linear. You may be OK at first, for a few weeks or more even, and then it might hit you like a sudden wave. Healing and hurting are not things with a set path or route. There are ups and downs and backwards steps, and that's OK. The end of a friendship is a big deal, when you've known someone and trusted and loved them for a long time, it can be like losing a part of yourself. It's OK to be OK, and then not be again. Healing isn't a finish line you cross and stay across, it's more of a spiral full of loops.

Ending a friendship can be a really hard decision, or a really easy one. Know that you aren't the first to be in pain because of it, and that if you reach out there are others around you who know that pain too and can be there.

I've been there, several times. And it's OK. I have newer incredible friends, and friends who have been by my side for almost 20 years, who are a piece of my heart and soul at this point. (Yes Fal, I mean you if you're reading this). It gets easier I promise.

Much love,

Tuesday, 12 June 2018

Colourpop Lips and Eyes : Polite AF and She's A Beach Babe Bundles

It's finally time for part 3 of my recent Colourpop haul (I told you I bought a fair bit!), and this time it's two of their bundles, Polite AF which is a super shock shadow set, and She's A Beach Babe lip product bundle.

She's A Beach Babe retails for $18.50, but I bought it reduced to $15. It contains 3 full size lip products in a mixture of finishes, all in more summery lighter colours.

The set is part of their collaboration with Eva Gutowski who is apparently a Youtuber I am too old to have heard of. The packaging is a slight twist on their usual clear tubes with silver tops, with the addition of an animal print-esque print, and a more handwritten style font than their usual. It's cute!

Left to right - Party Wave (ultra blotted lip), Love Bite (ultra blotted lip) and Just Surfed (ultra glossy lip)

Party Wave and Love Bite both have the same finish, the ultra blotted lip. This was one of my favourite additions to the Colourpop line last year, it's lighter than their ultra mattes and works really well for a more natural look, which I often look for in the summer. I think they are really versatile tones that could work well on a lot of skin tones too. Just Surfed is a gloss, which is generally my least favourite type of lip product, but it's a bronze tone filled with silver and pink glitter that is really delightful! It could easily be used over a darker lipstick as a topper too. 

Polite AF is a set of 6 super shock shadows in tones I would describe as more autumnal or neutral, all are fairly classic colours for your makeup bag. Usually I opt for a green or other bright colour on the eyes, but I could not resist this set. I've recently fallen back in love with brown tones and this looked ideal.

I think these looks darker in real life than they do in the photos on Colourpop's website, I tend to use a single colour at a time so don't mind that at all, as lighter colours aren't ones I usually reach for.

Left to right - Deep Dive, Drift, Birthday Girl, Birthday Cake, Stereo and Sequin.

Stereo is the only colour I can't really see myself reaching for regularly, because it's very dark, almost black it's so dark, but in winter on those more goth feeling days it will still have it's place. Drift is a gorgeous cranberry red, I never thought of using red on my eyes but I saw a photo of Sara X Mills wearing reddy tones a little while ago and it really made her green eyes pop. I have green eyes too so I just have to try it for myself. The other colours are all gorgeous brown and bronze tones that I know I will find myself reaching for regularly. Birthday Cake has a bit of a rose gold tone to it, and I love the purple glitter that creeps through in Deep Dive.

All in all, I'm really pleased with everything I picked up this time round! Colourpop have totally taken over my makeup collection and for good reason.

Much love,
Kitty xxx

Tuesday, 5 June 2018

JML Finishing Touch Flawless Hair Remover* Review

Let's talk about facial hair! Everyone has it, me included. Some people remove it, some people don't, and as a woman or femme with facial hair, it can be tricky. I remember being a teenager and having someone make a comment about my moustache and being horrified, and it's something that has stayed with me. I'm very fair, but the hair above my lip has always been darker, so much more noticeable. I have quite a furry face generally (cheeky Green Wing reference there) with a lot of peach fuzz fluff, and it does make me self conscious. I tried laser hair removal a few years ago and while it helped, it is less successful with fair hair and I found that it didn't shift what I expected it to. Since then, I've mostly shaved the remaining lip hair with a normal razor when I've noticed it, and often quickly run it over the furrier sections on my cheeks. Many women and femmes are able to embrace their facial hair, but I'm afraid right now I'm just not one of them, so I was eager to try out the JML Finishing Touch Flawless Hair Remover*.

The hair remover retails for £19.99, and requires a single AA battery. 

It comes in a matte white finish with gold trim, almost like a giant lipstick tube in design. It's discreet and classic, you wouldn't mind it being seen in your handbag in public, it's not obvious what it is at all.

The razor itself is the classic rotating blades design that many of us have seen in men's electric razors. It's still enough to easily remove lip hair without being concerned you are getting too close to your nostrils. It's easy and comfortable to use, and really did the trick. It easily removed my lip hair, and my peach fuzz.

To use it you slide up the little gold bar at the bottom of the gold section. This starts both the rotating and also turns on the LED light which is really nifty for seeing those smaller and fairer hairs! It comes with a small brush for cleaning the head and popping a new battery in is incredibly easy as the top gold section simply pulls out.

This has definitely made it's way into my makeup bag and will be coming with me on any travels just in case. I've always used shavers designed for men in the past, but this smaller and more lightweight design worked really well for what I wanted it too, and looks cute to boot.

Much love, 
Kitty xxx

*denotes an item gifted to me. I was under no obligation to review, but I really liked it so did!

Tuesday, 29 May 2018

Colourpop Lips : Lux Lipsticks and New Theory Set

Part 2 of my Colourpop Haul! This time, some of the lip products I ordered. I ordered a set of lippie stix called New Theory, and one of the brand new lux lipsticks.

I absolutely LOVE the packaging for this set. Butterflies and succulents are some of my favourite things so I just had to snap this up! The yellow is a sleeve that is removed to reveal the blue case below.

It comes with six lippie stix in a variety of finishes. The lippie stix have the addition of silver butterflies on the caps which is a cute way to tie it into the box.

Left to right - Ink Blot (matte), Sike (matte), Little Tings (creme), Lullaby (matte x), Fly-Fi (matte x) and Persuasion (matte).

Usually in the Colourpop lippe stix sets I find there are one or two shades that I would consider to be too light, but in this I didn't have that problem at all. I think my favourite shade of the bunch is Persuasion, I love purple tones and it's a gorgeous plum tone The creme finishes are a bit softer than the matte and matte x finishes, and the matte x is a truly matte finish.

The lux lipstick is a brand new product to Colourpop, and the packaging is totally different for them. It has a rose gold finish and is so heavyweight in comparison to their other lip products. It really really luxury and high end.

Left is Unravelled the lux lipstick, next to Persuasion, a lippie stix. It's another stunning purple tone that is perfect for summer. It went on incredibly smoothly in one swipe! The lux lipstick lasted really well for me, just drinking it looked exactly the same after 6 hours of wear with no feathering or wear in the inner lip at all. It also easily lasted through a lasagne! 

I know I'm going to get really good use out of all these colours, and I know they are really comfortable to wear.

Much love,
Kitty xxx